Describe the situation.
Start with the behavior or condition the boundary needs to address.
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Turn a limit into a boundary you can communicate.
Work through the situation, the limit you need, the request you want to make, and the follow-through that remains in your control.
Prepare before you communicate
Prepare a boundary with specific language before you bring it into a conversation.
Situation
Limit + request
Follow-through
Define the limit and request.
Write what you need and the specific request you want the other person to understand.
Name your follow-through.
Keep the action you can take separate from an attempt to control another person’s response.
How Boundary Builder works
Prepare the boundary before the conversation.
Use the prompts to move from a broad reaction toward language that is specific and actionable.
- 1Identify the situationDescribe the behavior or condition clearly.
- 2Write the boundaryConnect the limit, need, and request.
- 3Keep your action visibleRecord the follow-through that remains yours to choose.